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It’s easy to compartmentalize our love life…   We get a little emotional intimacy from our hot colleague,   Or a little physical intimacy from an ex or friend with benefits,   Or we meet our need for love and romance by watching Hallmark movies and...

I could have stayed suffocated for my whole life.   But I healed, and continue to heal, those imprints on my nervous system, so that another woman does not have to go through this ever again. I spent 6+ years in therapy, hired coaches, saw healers, did retreats,...

Are you going through a tough time right now, or maybe even for the last few years, in your love life?   Does it feel like it will never end, the skeezy guys or boring guys or lack of attraction or interest?   Is there an ex who you just can’t move on from?...

The myth is that it takes a long time to heal…   The truth is that healing can happen quickly...when we stop hiding our heart.   Have you ever had a crazy breakup, devastating divorce, or hyperactive career, and gone straight into shutdown mode?   Do...

“How can I get a man to romance me?”   “Is chivalry dead?”   “Where are all the good men?”   Have you ever heard yourself ask these questions, even in your own mind? Or maybe you hear these questions from your friends?   Guess what?   You...

Today is the day! V-day. A day of love!   But something sneaky might be going on in your love life (or lack thereof)...and I want to protect you from this because it held me down for years!   Sometimes well-meaning people in our lives have a habit of...

Today is only two days away from my version of the superbowl -- Valentine’s Day!   You can say what you want about it being a Hallmark holiday, and I don’t give a hoot. I Love Valentine’s Day!   Pretty much every day is “productivity day.”   We are...

Sometimes resistance pops up, right when we’re about to breakthrough to the next level of love…   Have you been wanting more in love, but you just can’t figure out why it hasn’t happened yet?   Or are you worried it might not ever happen, with the quality of...

Do you sometimes struggle with knowing what to say in your online profile, or with knowing how to message back and forth so it leads to a date?   Do you often have a hard time knowing when to be vulnerable, and when to just play it cool?   Do you...

Invitation.   Feminine energy is an invitation...   Not a demand, not a control mechanism, not a manipulation.   Masculine energy is a TRANSMISSION. It has direction, agency, penetration.   Feminine energy is magnetizing. It draws something or...

Wow, I know that might sound harsh…   You’re probably thinking “Violet, if I knew how to stop being single, I would be in a relationship right now”   And I hear you, most of us were never actually taught how to be in a partnership, which is why healthy...

There is SO much love happening over here I am just bursting with delight for my clients! It’s incredible what they are manifesting and creating for romance: “We partook in a moon ritual last night during the eclipse...we had to set intentions and he shared his. The...