So many women attract men who treat them poorly — in obvious ways like cheating, but in non-obvious ways too like subtle put-downs or withholding.
What’s up with that?
When my client Rhonda came to me, she had been attracting guys who seemed “nice” on the outside,
but these men kept pulling away, or got emotional and she had to be their “therapist”…
Some of the men said they wanted commitment, but then ending up wanting “another thing.”
No wonder it was confusing and exhausting for her.
The worst part was dating men who said they were ready for love, but then let the relationship slip away…
Have you ever been in a situation like that?
Maddening, right!?!
Rhonda was starting to worry if she’d ever find a guy who treated her well and who truly wanted what she wanted (and was willing to take action on it)…
Luckily someone introduced me to Rhonda, and we started to chat about her love life.
I could see this big problem was actually simple to solve…in fact, I had already helped many women solve it.
Rhonda thought my process sounded a little crazy,
But she was willing to give it a go.
And within 3 weeks she was dating an amazing guy, who not only paid a lot of attention to her and brought her flowers,
But who also let her go at her own pace as they slowly built intimacy.
He makes life easy for her — helping her with errands, talking about the future, making her feel safe.
He has a big vision for life, an open heart, and the patience to stay connected to her instead of driving his own agenda.
THIS is true masculine leadership — one that’s attuned to the other person versus plowing ahead with his own ego.
And this is the masculine presence which worships a woman, and sees her as a goddess, instead of taking advantage of her.
What happened? Why the major turnaround?
Rhonda shifted the ways that she related to herself and others. She changed how she communicated. She changed her mindset too.
Nothing on the outside can stay the same when we change things on the inside.
Twenty percent of dating is about the external — which apps to use, how to flirt, what to say on a text…
But eighty percent of dating is about the internal, and reading a book won’t get you there.
Rhonda was willing to go deep and take a new look at what was going on.
If you want to make fast changes, you have to go deep inside and find the jewels. Rediscover that you are the gift! Hire a mentor who can help you navigate the terrain.
If that’s you, I’d love to talk.
Xoxo, Violet
PS my passion is helping women reclaim their power in dating so they can attract an amazing man and get what they want in love. It’s not easy, but it is simple — most women just don’t know how. I love to work with women who are hungry: women who have decided they want love, are committed to making it happen, and are not willing to let external circumstances stand in their way. If that’s you, let’s talk! I’m taking a few calls this weekend because I know how important summer love is! Just grab a time that works for you for a complimentary Breakthrough to Love call now at www.violetlange.com/talk
