I’ve been feeling SO GRATEFUL lately for the magic of my life…how delicious, sexy, and SAFE I feel in my relationship…how turned on I still feel by my husband…how cared for I am by him with the fun surprise dates he plans and the way he listens to my feelings…
And how much LOVE we have for each other where we can talk about anything — and I mean anything — with respect and FUN.
Because of the strength of our relationship — and yes, because of my own badass feminine power too — I have never felt so fulfilled in my life.
I woke up the other day thinking “everything in my life is working!”
And it scared the crap out of me!
I have never felt so fulfilled by my friendships, my partner, my body, my spirituality, my creativity, my work, my team, and my environment…
I am lit up with joy and passion. I run one of the most successful dating and relationship businesses in the world, helping hundreds and thousands of women free their feminine energy and get everything they want in life and love including marriage, babies, fancy trips, passionate romance, and more.
But I need to tell you something. This has NOT been my normal. I have never in my life felt fulfilled in so many areas at once…which is why this has been freaking me out so much.
I used to be a master at self-sabotage.
As soon as something got good, I destroyed it. I left lucrative careers, ruined relationships, binged on food and alcohol, ran away from friends, racked up debt, you name it.
As soon as something felt nice and seemed like it had the possibility of sticking, I got bored and distant…or that’s what I thought.
Does that ever happen to you? Everything seems to be going great and then the other shoe drops or it just crumbles?
Three and a half years ago, I had just moved in with my younger sister because I couldn’t pay rent (so embarrassing), not to mention there was a guy stalking me. I had to leave and even had to give my dog to my parents for a year.
What’s worse is that a few months before all of that went down, I had a miscarriage in what I thought was going to be a perfect relationship (he checked all the boxes on my list)…and we didn’t make it through.
I kept getting urinary tract infections and breaking out from the anxiety and stress of not being able to make my business work, the failure of that relationship, and the humbling move.
I’m telling you this because this was the lowest point of my life. I was scared to death and so lost. But it forced me to wake up to the fact that my life wasn’t working and only I could change it.
I absolutely had to find a different way of being with myself and with the world. I had to stop pushing and going it alone, stop being so masculine and driven, and stop ignoring my body and my heart.
Without this bottom-of-the-barrel few months, I would never have woken up to my calling (beyond helping women with dating), which was to help women find a feminine way of life and love. And to help women integrate mind/body/heart, and step into the power of vulnerability and raw truth.
At the bottom of it, I woke up. I woke up to the fact that I didn’t feel worthy and deserving of success, or love, or pleasure.
I woke up to the fact that I had lived out other people’s agendas and taken care of their feelings more than my own.
I woke up to the fact that despite pushing and pushing and working harder and harder, I was worse off in every way than ten years prior.
Thank God I had that wake-up call.
It blows my mind that so much of my life has changed in such a short amount of time, and now I’m married to the man of my dreams, running a million-dollar business helping women find lasting love, living in the best city on the planet, surrounded by amazing friends.
This is the power of freeing our feminine, of healing our patterns, and of syncing up our mind, heart, and body to find TRUE love for ourselves and others. When that happens we get what we want, fast.
I’ve been sharing this work — heart-healing, relationship building, femininity enhancing work — you know, love and dating work, with women for years and it just gets better and better and faster and faster, their shifts and success in life and love. And I’m excited to share it with you.
Do you want to get to bottom of the barrel like I did? Or are you ready to wake up, without the nightmare?
Xoxo, Violet
PS what you learn by working with me is stuff it took me ten years to figure out, but my clients now learn it and implement it in only a few months. I wish someone had told me these things YEARS ago, it could have saved me a decade of my life and about a hundred thousand dollars from divorce, therapy, healers, and missed opportunities. Save yourself the heartache of trying to figure it out on your own and book your free Breakthrough to Love call here: www.violetlange.com/talk
