Something happened to me this morning
I had this really kind of crazy dream about Jason
In my dream he was seeing two other women and it felt
Like betrayal and a sense of something isn’t what I think it is…
Even though it’s just a dream, in the moment it felt really real
I woke up and I immediately just started sobbing and bawling my eyes out
The reason I’m bringing this up is because there’s this thing that happens
Where we start to feel paranoid.
Feeling paranoid is part of being human
It’s normal to have fears about the future
It’s normal to want to predict things
To protect ourselves especially if we’ve been hurt in the past
That paranoia can really put a wrench in relationships
We can be focused so much on the future and focus so much on a sense of what if
We spend so much time in what if like what if my partner cheats on me
What if this relationship doesn’t work out
We forget about the beauty of the moment
And the cost is high of living in paranoia,
Not only on our own well-being but on our partners as well.
If we can’t stay connected to the truth of the moment, and connected to our bodies and hearts,
If we only stay stuck in our fears,
It’s a barrier to deep connection and commitment.
Being in a state of paranoia is a lot of pressure on your nervous system
Your cortisol levels and stress hormones go up and your adrenals get taxed
Paranoia is about being on high alert and looking for something that might not actually be there — that “high alert” is a huge stress on your body.
There’s this weird interaction between the body and the mind
We can sense something or have a feeling which oftentimes doesn’t have words
We get this sense in our gut like oh something’s off
Now that is intuition and I want you to pay attention to that intuition
What’s not intuition is when we have the monkey mind the fears
“I’m not lovable” or “I’m not good enough”
“Is my partner going to stay with me?”
Monkey mind fears are the paranoia that keeps us from connecting to our body
What keeps you up at night?
What fears do you have about the relationship?
Is there anything that makes you paranoid?
We can be our own worst enemy.
And I don’t want that for you.
I want you to be your own best friend and cheerleader.
I want you to be able to stop your monkey mind and have the peace and passion you crave, instead of worrying it’s over.
If you’re ready to get out of your own way and into a relationship which lights you up and calms (not exaggerates) your fears, we should talk.
Because if you make this change, one day you’ll realize you haven’t anxiety about love in months…you’ll trust yourself and your partner, and even when you have a bad dream, he’ll be there to kiss away your tears.
Xoxo, Violet
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