How is your mindset when it relates to men?
Everyone has actually a different definition of what it is to be a good man.
But so many women are not conscious of what that actually means to them.
I speak with hundreds of women every month, every year.
And what we find is that when women are talking about what they want in their partnership and in their future, they will say things like,
“I want him to be tall”
Or, “I want him to be successful”
Or, “I want him to have a good job”
Or, “I want him to be kind”
But there are two words that I rarely hear from women…
Do you know what those are?
Integrity and honesty.
Those should be at the top of your list.
I can’t tell you what you’re looking for, but if I were in your shoes, I would be looking for a man of integrity and honesty…a man of character, not just chemistry and not just looks.
Many women assume that another human being would have these things.
They might innately trust that of course a man would have high integrity and high honesty.
But if you’re not explicit about that, if you’re not saying to yourself and the universe and the men that you meet that this is what you want,
then you are not necessarily going to get that.
How can you tell if someone is being honest and high integrity?
It’s not that easy to tell from their words, because words are just words.
But we have this beautiful intuition, this feminine seventh sense…
This feminine knowing is even greater than the masculine knowing and the masculine awareness,
and this feminine knowing resides in our physical body and the gifts that she gives us through her sensations.
So you know when you’re around someone and it feels like almost too good to be true?
Or it feels a little bit slimy, or it feels a little bit disingenuous or it feels kind of like the rug was pulled out from under you?
The more you pay attention to your physical sensations and to your body and to the gifts of your
seventh sense as a woman, the more you’ll be able to pick up on whether or not this a man of integrity.
If you’re still not sure, then ask that person as you get to know them about their dating history, about their relationships, about the people that are close to them in their lives, and about their relationships with their family.
Ask about their sense of connection to the world and what inspires them.
Because someone who is of high integrity will be in integrity or alignment with themselves, and that will translate into having strength in their relationships as well.
You can tell if someone is out of integrity if they’re saying one thing and doing another, but also if they’re bouncing around all over the place.
If they don’t have a sense of grounding, and if they have a hard time maintaining a relationship, then pay attention.
Because a relationship is built on integrity and on honesty.
Xoxo, Violet
PS If you’re ready for a man of integrity and honesty, and ready for a love that lasts, let’s talk. I offer free 45 minute Breakthrough to Love sessions, where you’ll get clear on the right man for you and what’s keeping you from finding and keeping him. Just click here www.violetlange.com/apply to select your spot!
