How long have you been waiting for love? A few months? A few years? A few decades?
I still cringe when I hear that old song “You can’t hurry love” — the Phil Collins version played a lot when I was younger.
It makes me SO mad that we have a narrative, mainly for women, that we are powerless when it comes to love. Sure, we can climb the corporate ladder and break the glass ceiling, but when it comes to love we have to wait.
How infuriating! Can you imagine telling your daughter (if you have one) that she just has to wait to be successful? Or telling your friend she just needs to “wait” to be healthy?
The myth is you can’t hurry love. And it’s a bunch of frustrating B.S.
The truth is, love is something you should pay attention to, and that time does run out.
I can’t tell you how many women I talk to who are in their 40s or 50s and haven’t ever had a great relationship…because they stayed too long with the wrong guy or they were just “waiting” and waiting and waiting for love.
One woman I worked with came to me at age 42, without ever having a real relationship. She was a virgin, but more importantly, she had never experienced love.
Within 6 months she was going to Kauai with her boyfriend, who paid for the whole thing, because she decided to stop “waiting” and decided to start seeking counsel in this part of her life.
But she did get help and guidance to learn how to date effectively.
She stopped believing that love was something she just couldn’t “hurry” and she actually did something about her love life, in a hurry. And then something she’d struggled with for two decades happened in less than 6 months.
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Xoxo, Violet
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