Have you ever had a relationship you thought was great, start to fizzle out?
Have you ever stayed too long in a bad relationship?
Have you ever started to lower your standards and date men who really were below what you’re looking for?
These are all signs that you’re punishing yourself.
Stop punishing yourself…making yourself suffer…staying under a self-imposed upper limit in love. Thinking that you’re somehow bad, wrong, or unworthy of healthy partnership.
It’s my mission in life to help women stop punishing themselves in love, and to feel good instead — and my guess is that if you’re reading this, you have made some choices in love which really hurt.
It’s a scary, liberating, and sometimes ego-crushing epiphany when we realize we are totally at choice to create the love life we want.
Sometimes when we realize this, we want to hide back in a hole and pretend that we can’t have love or that it’s all the guy’s fault.
Truth is, it’s pretty simple to stop punishing yourself with poor love choices. But while it’s simple, it’s not easy.
My philosophy in life is to look for the pleasure and do what feels good, AND, find the pleasure and feeling-good aspect of doing what’s RIGHT for you.
The sweet spot — the one we all crave — is when doing the right thing (the thing that nourishes your heart and sets your soul on fire) feels fantastic and full of pleasure.
If you’ve been taught that love has to hurt, it’s time to heal.
If you’ve been taught that he’ll always leave, it’s time to invest in yourself.
If you’ve been taught that men are scary, it’s time to attract the healthy masculine.
Please stop punishing yourself. Do the right thing — the pleasurable thing — and get support in feeling good in love.
Are you ready to finally have an epic, lasting love?
Xoxo, Violet
PS if you’re sick of punishing yourself with unhealthy love choices, maybe we can help. We won’t know until we get on the phone, but if we’ve seen your pattern before we will explain what’s going on and what you need to do instead. Just set up your free Breakthrough to Love call here: www.violetlange.com/talk
