{"id":503597,"date":"2019-05-07T07:47:13","date_gmt":"2019-05-07T14:47:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/?p=503597"},"modified":"2019-04-11T07:54:31","modified_gmt":"2019-04-11T14:54:31","slug":"are-you-setting-yourself-up-to-win-in-dating-and-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/are-you-setting-yourself-up-to-win-in-dating-and-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Are you setting yourself up to win in dating and love?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Do you look at dating as a battle?<\/span><\/p>\n

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If someone breaks up with you do you feel like you \u201close\u201d?<\/span><\/p>\n

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We live in such a competitive society it can feel like finding love is full of winners and losers. But the truth is, the best love happens when everyone wins.<\/span><\/p>\n

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If you think you have to be \u201cright\u201d…<\/span><\/p>\n

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Or that you have to \u201cwin\u201d in every text or conversation or date\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

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Your partner is probably feeling like they have to lose. Or, that \u201cthere\u2019s no way to win with you\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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Ouch. <\/span><\/p>\n

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It can be the kiss of death to a date or relationship when the other person feels they can\u2019t do anything right…or that it\u2019s never enough…or that there\u2019s no way for you to be happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Now, truly no one can make you happy, that\u2019s up to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

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But I would bet a love interest would love to see you smile! And to see you receive their love with ease and satisfaction, instead of criticism or self-righteousness.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Look we all get into this trap sometimes…many women I\u2019ve worked with to help find true love, were stuck feeling hopeless or that they always lost in love\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

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and then they would find reasons to not like the men who were good for them…they would find reasons that anyone who came close to them would lose.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Imagine if you were always winning in love? If your dates and experiences were fun, easy, and connected? <\/span><\/p>\n

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Imagine if your date or partner felt like a winner too? Don\u2019t you think that would improve their mood, their confidence, their desire to be with you?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Are you ready for a love where everyone wins?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Xoxo, Violet<\/span><\/p>\n

P.S. you can absolutely create win-win dates and relationships, where it gets better and better and more and more supportive! This makes dating so much fun! If you\u2019re committed to being a woman of love who attracts a partner who feels like they won the lottery with you, a partner you still deeply respect and desire, let\u2019s talk! We offer free Breakthrough to Love sessions for women ready to win in love — just book your spot here: <\/span>www.violetlange.com\/talk<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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