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I just read a friend\u2019s business post about a group he\u2019s starting\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n I really *wanted* to join this group. It seemed like a good idea and I wanted it to be an energetic fit.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n But my body and heart were a \u201cmeh\u201d to it.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Why?<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n There was no shakti. No life. No feminine power.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Now he\u2019s a dude, so I don\u2019t expect this from him, but still\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n We are being asked — called — into our integrated masculine and feminine. I need the guys I interact with to have balls AND heart.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n But oftentimes men don\u2019t even realize how they come across…or what they\u2019re missing. Let\u2019s just say women are much more self-aware and in touch.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Reading his post gave me such clarity on our power, as women, to gift men with feedback, to gift men with life.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n But if you\u2019re trying to be like a man — if you\u2019ve lost touch with your feminine essense — the well runs dry, you know what I mean? There\u2019s no unique energy contribution from either of you…it just feels like two bro\u2019s.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n You power comes through your UNIQUENESS. Your ability to add playfulness, insight, warmth, pleasure, beauty, seduction, and love. These aren\u2019t \u201cfemale\u201d qualities, these are just things that are probably more natural to you, than to your average Joe. <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Don\u2019t hide your feminine power. Don\u2019t feel compelled towards winning approval. <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Instead of asking yourself \u201chow do I fit in?\u201d or \u201cwhat do we have in common?\u201d on a date, <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n ask \u201cWhat can I offer that\u2019s unique? How can I light up this conversation? What\u2019s missing? What would draw me in?\u201d Never settle for being bored on a date. Make your own magic.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n You have a big gift to give the world, and it\u2019s less about doing than being. <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n