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The myth is that you shouldn\u2019t be afraid\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

The truth is that you should be afraid.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pretending we don\u2019t have fear keeps us closed off in our hearts, and naive.<\/span><\/p>\n

It suppresses this basic human emotion which has a ton of power for us if we pay attention to it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ironically the more we ignore our fear the more we freak the f out!<\/span><\/p>\n

I get so upset when I see women who tell me: <\/span><\/p>\n

\u201con the outside I look great and confident, but I\u2019m so afraid to admit that I\u2019m scared…and I\u2019m sabotaging my own relationship\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Under the fear is often longing — a longing to feel safe, to be loved, and to trust ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we are catapulting past fear, oftentime we\u2019re not taking savvy actions which will lead us to love…we\u2019re just going in a circle of frenzy.<\/span><\/p>\n

One of my clients Diana is an attorney who has it all together, or so it seemed\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

But she confided in me on our first call that she felt absolutely lonely and devastated. <\/span><\/p>\n

The more dates she went on, the worse she felt. <\/span><\/p>\n

And for the few times she got into a relationship, it always fizzled out…in large part from her anxiety.<\/span><\/p>\n

It was like watching a kid meticulously build a sand castle and then stomp and smash it as soon as it\u2019s built. Ouch.<\/span><\/p>\n

She was honestly terrified to start working with me — not because I\u2019m a brat lol, but because she didn\u2019t want to confront her old patterns. <\/span><\/p>\n

But she knew she couldn\u2019t stay stuck — it was costing her the chance for love. She knew opportunities don\u2019t disappear — in love and in life — they just go to someone who\u2019s more awake and committed.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we began our journey, I didn\u2019t push past her fear or tell her to \u201cget over it.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

That aggressive \u201ctoughen up\u201d approach never works for the feminine in love!<\/span><\/p>\n

We instead used my process of feminine embodiment, supportive community, and an effective relationship \/ dating strategy, to gently work WITH (not against) her fear.<\/span><\/p>\n

She has an amazing boyfriend now who she says is sexy AF and treats her like gold. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s almost hard to believe that the woman I see now is even the same person…<\/span><\/p>\n

She\u2019s confident, sexy, self-assured, and going on 6 months with her man. <\/span><\/p>\n

They\u2019ve met their families and are talking about moving in.<\/span><\/p>\n

Another one of my clients, Julie, came to me already in a relationship of about 5 months. But she was panicked that it wouldn\u2019t last.<\/span><\/p>\n

We worked with her fear, her anxiety, and her doubts, to completely transform who she is in her relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

And they are talking about marriage. She says he\u2019s totally stepping up and meeting her needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

Couldn\u2019t YOU have that? <\/span><\/p>\n

It depends. <\/span><\/p>\n

Are you afraid of changing and discovering how powerful you are? Afraid of healthy love?<\/span><\/p>\n

Or are you more afraid of staying stuck and alone?<\/span><\/p>\n

If you have fear, it\u2019s not your fault. Our society tells us \u201cno fear\u201d…the same society with rampant sexual abuse. It\u2019s okay to be afraid. I have worked with women with boatloads of fear — and my ways still are effective. But only if you are ready to wake up \ud83d\ude42<\/span><\/p>\n

Xoxo, Violet<\/span><\/p>\n

PS I know what a beast fear can be, and that\u2019s why I like helping women work through it to find their power in love. If you\u2019re ready to listen to your fear and rise into your full potential, let\u2019s talk. Just pick out a spot for your free Breakthrough to Love call here: <\/span>www.violetlange.com\/talk<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

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