![\"\"](\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/4.18-copy-300x200.jpeg\")
<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Do you remember the last time you went on a first date?<\/span><\/p>\n Was it last week?<\/span><\/p>\n Last month?<\/span><\/p>\n Last year?<\/span><\/p>\n And do you remember the moments afterwards — even the days afterwards — when you weren\u2019t quite sure if he\u2019d ask you out again?<\/span> I absolutely remember those times!<\/span><\/p>\n I have to say, for most of my life, those times were full of agony!!!<\/span><\/p>\n I had a VERY hard time TRUSTING he would ask me out again.<\/span><\/p>\n Does that ever happen to you?<\/span><\/p>\n Fear, anxiety, worry, doubt, self-criticism would all creep in and suck the joy out of dating.<\/span><\/p>\n The more anxious I became, the higher the stakes (it seemed), <\/span><\/p>\n and the more I would inadvertently put pressure on this new \u201crelationship,\u201d if only in my mind.<\/span><\/p>\n At times I wasn\u2019t sure what I could change to get a guy to ask me out again, like clockwork, <\/span><\/p>\n and to stop the worry and obsession about getting a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th date.<\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s actually a big issue, because if you can\u2019t get to the next date, it\u2019s incredibly hard to get into an actual relationship\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n it\u2019s like having all these opportunities fall through your fingers, with a major toll on your self-esteem<\/span><\/p>\n When you don\u2019t know how to convert dates into relationships, it\u2019s easy to get hardened, which only makes the cycle of doubt, and not getting what you want, worse.<\/span><\/p>\n But you can absolutely create faith in yourself and in the process so you know you\u2019re desired, chosen, and adored.<\/span><\/p>\n My clients go from failing to get 2nd or 3rd dates\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n to having guys want to see them as soon as possible and asking them out on a second date before the first one is even over!<\/span><\/p>\n One of my clients, Teresa, has had two men in the last month completely smitten with her, <\/span><\/p>\n to the point where they are bringing her gifts, making future plans, and wanting to see her multiple times a week.<\/span><\/p>\n Before we started working together though, Teresa was feeling depressed about dating and anxious about getting second, third, and fourth dates.<\/span><\/p>\n What happened?<\/span><\/p>\n She made a massive shift into dating the right way:<\/span><\/p>\n She shifted her focus from the man to herself.<\/span><\/p>\n She shifted her energy from masculine-based to feminine.<\/span><\/p>\n She shifted her support from flying solo to having a mentor and tribe to support her through the dating process.<\/span><\/p>\n If you want to feel like a Queen, with men asking you out again and again, and without all the worry and stress, then now is your time.<\/span><\/p>\n If you are cool with dating casually and ghosting or being ghosted, or aren\u2019t totally committed to love, this isn\u2019t for you. <\/span><\/p>\n But if you want the secret decoder ring (as one of my clients says!) for men and love, <\/span><\/p>\n and are willing to be self-aware and decisive about your love life, then choose to learn the right way to date now.<\/span><\/p>\n Love, dating, and relationships don\u2019t have to be hard, or a black box of confusion. <\/span><\/p>\n Make it easier for yourself by doing it the right way instead of spinning your wheels. <\/span><\/p>\n So that men ask you out consistently, and you never have to worry about a not getting a second date again.<\/span><\/p>\n And so that 2018 is the year you go on your LAST first date ever — \u00a0the one with your future boyfriend or husband!<\/span><\/p>\n Xoxo, Violet<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Do you remember the last time you went on a first date? Was it last week? Last month? Last year? And do you remember the moments afterwards — even the days afterwards — when you weren\u2019t quite sure if he\u2019d ask you out again? I absolutely remember those times! I have to say, for most […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2147,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"episode_type":"","audio_file":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","filesize_raw":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/span><\/p>\n