{"id":1676,"date":"2017-11-13T05:56:39","date_gmt":"2017-11-13T13:56:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/?p=1676"},"modified":"2017-11-13T05:56:39","modified_gmt":"2017-11-13T13:56:39","slug":"is-your-divorce-a-doomsday-does-it-affect-your-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/is-your-divorce-a-doomsday-does-it-affect-your-confidence\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Your Divorce A Doomsday? Does it Affect Your Confidence?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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When I went through my divorce, for the first three years after that, I literally felt like I needed to tell everyone that I went on a date with that I had been married and that I went through a divorce. <\/span><\/p>\n It was almost like I felt like I had to put a sign on my forehead to warn people. <\/span><\/p>\n But every time that I said it, I felt a tightening in my belly, and I felt guilty about myself. I felt like I was a bad person. <\/span><\/p>\n Do you walk around in discouragement or shame from your divorce? <\/span><\/p>\n Is it affecting your dating life?<\/span><\/p>\n It took me three years to realize that no one I met or dated cared that I was divorced. <\/span><\/p>\n They weren’t like, “Oh, you must be a bad seed.” <\/span><\/p>\n I had more than one man actually say,<\/span><\/p>\n “Yeah, that’s too bad that happened, but I SCORED because that means you’re single now.” <\/span><\/p>\n If you are available, it means that whatever you went through in the past, actually contributed to you being available right now. <\/span><\/p>\n And if you weren’t available right now, this person would not have the glorious opportunity to sit across the table from you, or buy you a drink, or get to know you. <\/span><\/p>\n So whatever you’ve gone through that you might be labeling as baggage, is actually to your future partner’s benefit because it’s contributed to you being the woman that you are today.<\/span><\/p>\n How do you relate to your past? Are you free and clear and confident?<\/span><\/p>\n Even if you\u2019ve been through a divorce, you can attract an incredible partner. I did, and over half the women I work with have been through a divorce and still get into loving relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n When was your divorce?<\/span><\/p>\n And are you still suffering because of it?<\/span><\/p>\n Doesn\u2019t have to be that way \ud83d\ude42 Love can happen again.<\/span><\/p>\n