{"id":1584,"date":"2017-10-09T14:37:23","date_gmt":"2017-10-09T21:37:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/?p=1584"},"modified":"2017-10-09T14:39:08","modified_gmt":"2017-10-09T21:39:08","slug":"the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/","title":{"rendered":"The problem with giving away your power….."},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/p>\n

Other than the original offense itself, nothing makes me more upset than when I see a woman give up or give in\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nothing makes me more upset than when a woman decides she is unworthy of love somehow because of something that was done to her…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Or something that was taken from her.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I am a survivor of sexual abuse.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And I am so inspired every day that it brings me to my knees in gratitude.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I am inspired when I see a woman say ENOUGH!!!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Enough playing small, cowering in fear, and freezing \/ numbing out.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Enough giving away power to the person who tried to take it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Enough falling into a pit of despair and not reaching out for love and support.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Whatever happened to you — you are not broken. You are whole, strong, and lovable.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve never met a woman whom I didn\u2019t admire in some way, and love in some way, as a reflection of the Divine Feminine and an example and teacher for me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But I can\u2019t help you if you want to be a victim…if you want to stay stuck…if you want to keep giving away your power.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most of us are terrified of our power.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We reclaim some but then give it away, never risking to take a big leap and commit in a big way to ourselves.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We never \u201cgo big or go home\u201d (one of the mantras of one of my newest clients)<\/strong><\/p>\n

We may wonder…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Who will I be when I say ENOUGH?<\/strong><\/p>\n

And, will I be loved?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let me tell you, this is a risk worth taking.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because I know what it\u2019s like on the other side…<\/strong><\/p>\n

I settled in too many relationships, and when I finally changed that pattern, finally OWNED my power with a partner (instead of hiding my light),<\/strong><\/p>\n

Everything changed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

My love life. My friendships. My spirituality. My sensuality. My career — all of it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying my life is perfect, but it\u2019s pretty damn amazing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So I want you to know, you CAN survive, and more importantly, THRIVE.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t easy. And it wasn\u2019t always fun, to keep showing up for myself and fight my inner demons.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But is worth every freaking moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And so say my clients as well.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIt was worth every moment to get unstuck and finally feel excited about dating and optimistic about love,\u201d she said.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIt was worth it to no longer settle and to instead say no and make space for the right guy,\u201d she said.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cIt was worth it to follow my heart and value myself versus dating anyone who comes along,\u201d she said.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI WILL NEVER GIVE UP,\u201d she said.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I am so inspired by these women.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And I too will never give up on myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I too will never give up on the women I work with, no matter how painful their past.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I too will never give up on the Divine Feminine and how she masterfully is rising again on this planet to wake all of us up.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you willing to stand up for yourself?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you willing to take back your power in the name of love?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you willing to be an example for your girlfriends and other survivors? To show them love is possible and healing is your birthright?<\/strong><\/p>\n

If so, say Heck Yeah. A-men. Yes, I\u2019m In.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Celebrating your courage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Xoxo, Violet<\/strong><\/p>\n

P.S.\u00a0I\u2019d love to hear your story of triumph over your past\u00a0<\/a><\/em>— let me know if you\u2019re a survivor, and how you\u2019ve healed and what you\u2019re wanting out of life and love. Reply to this message or comment in our private group on Facebook.<\/strong><\/p>\n

P.P.S. And if you still haven\u2019t set up time with our team to get customized attention on how to breakthrough your old pattern and fully claim your power to be loved, just check this link for a spot:\u00a0www.violetlange.com\/apply<\/a><\/em>\u00a0If nothing works for you, contact\u00a0<\/strong>Elizabeth@ThePleasurePath.toda<\/a>y<\/a>\u00a0<\/em>and she\u2019ll try to find time for you on our calendar for your free Breakthrough Session <3 <3 <3<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Other than the original offense itself, nothing makes me more upset than when I see a woman give up or give in\u2026 Nothing makes me more upset than when a woman decides she is unworthy of love somehow because of something that was done to her… Or something that was taken from her. I am […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":1585,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","inline_featured_image":false,"episode_type":"","audio_file":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","filesize_raw":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nThe problem with giving away your power..... - Violet Lange<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The problem with giving away your power..... - Violet Lange\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Other than the original offense itself, nothing makes me more upset than when I see a woman give up or give in\u2026 Nothing makes me more upset than when a woman decides she is unworthy of love somehow because of something that was done to her… Or something that was taken from her. I am […]\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Violet Lange\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pathofpleasingyourself\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2017-10-09T21:37:23+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2017-10-09T21:39:08+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/girl-boxer-ring-boxing-pear-163351.jpeg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1125\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"750\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Violet\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@thepleasurepath\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@thepleasurepath\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Violet\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/\",\"name\":\"The problem with giving away your power..... - Violet Lange\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2017-10-09T21:37:23+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2017-10-09T21:39:08+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#\/schema\/person\/6839879845a73e3488d4e7fad427893d\"},\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"The problem with giving away your power…..\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/\",\"name\":\"Violet Lange\",\"description\":\"\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#\/schema\/person\/6839879845a73e3488d4e7fad427893d\",\"name\":\"Violet\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/044f33e1178831eb9fac544b354576c8?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/044f33e1178831eb9fac544b354576c8?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Violet\"}}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"The problem with giving away your power..... - Violet Lange","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"The problem with giving away your power..... - Violet Lange","og_description":"Other than the original offense itself, nothing makes me more upset than when I see a woman give up or give in\u2026 Nothing makes me more upset than when a woman decides she is unworthy of love somehow because of something that was done to her… Or something that was taken from her. I am […]","og_url":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/","og_site_name":"Violet Lange","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pathofpleasingyourself\/","article_published_time":"2017-10-09T21:37:23+00:00","article_modified_time":"2017-10-09T21:39:08+00:00","og_image":[{"width":1125,"height":750,"url":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/girl-boxer-ring-boxing-pear-163351.jpeg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"Violet","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@thepleasurepath","twitter_site":"@thepleasurepath","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Violet","Est. reading time":"3 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/","url":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/","name":"The problem with giving away your power..... - Violet Lange","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#website"},"datePublished":"2017-10-09T21:37:23+00:00","dateModified":"2017-10-09T21:39:08+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#\/schema\/person\/6839879845a73e3488d4e7fad427893d"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/the-problem-with-giving-away-your-power\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"The problem with giving away your power….."}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#website","url":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/","name":"Violet Lange","description":"","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#\/schema\/person\/6839879845a73e3488d4e7fad427893d","name":"Violet","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/044f33e1178831eb9fac544b354576c8?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/044f33e1178831eb9fac544b354576c8?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Violet"}}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1584"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1584"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1584\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1585"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1584"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1584"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1584"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}