{"id":1005663,"date":"2020-06-18T10:51:52","date_gmt":"2020-06-18T17:51:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/?p=1005663"},"modified":"2020-06-18T10:51:52","modified_gmt":"2020-06-18T17:51:52","slug":"passivity-is-so-past-its-prime-your-fire-feminine-is-needed-now","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/violetlange.com\/blog\/passivity-is-so-past-its-prime-your-fire-feminine-is-needed-now\/","title":{"rendered":"Passivity is so Past its Prime — Your Fire Feminine is Needed Now"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let’s change the narrative that feminine energy = passivity. Sitting still isn’t working. Sweet and nice. Look pretty. Smile more. Don\u2019t do this. Don\u2019t do that. Be a good girl.<\/span><\/p>\n

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This type of feminine energy attracts unhealthy masculine energy — the type of partner who wants a trophy or someone to control. And combined, unhealthy feminine and masculine create an unhealthy society without true accountability, justice, or love.<\/span><\/p>\n

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That bland femininity actually repels the healthy masculine, and it\u2019s not serving you. Or me. Or our society.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Do you want to be someone\u2019s puppet? Or their partner?<\/span><\/p>\n

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The healthy feminine is audacious. She speaks out. She expresses her creativity, even when it\u2019s messy and wild. She has sass that seduces without even having to be sensual.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The healthy masculline is the peacemaker. This energy holds the space, and protects the feminine as she storms and rages and dances. The healthy masculine is a witness, knowing she\u2019s birthing something new, dazzled by her.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Now is not the time to sit still. Now is not the time to wrap everything in \u201clove and light\u201d — spiritual bypass will not draw a healthy partner to you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Pretending it\u2019s all puppies and unicorns will just attract someone who hasn\u2019t done their work (someone who won\u2019t be able to sustain a commitment).<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the last two months I\u2019ve helped five clients get into relationships, yes, even during COVID-19. How? Because they embodied the feminine energy that doesn\u2019t give a flip — they weren\u2019t chasing or performing or being nice in order to get a prize.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Some of these women met their partner in real life, some online, but all of them got support and structure so their powerful feminine energy could feel safe being expressed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Society wants you to believe that feminine energy is docile and conforming. But that distortion of feminine energy actually props up the outdated systems which are oppressing so many people.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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If you can\u2019t feel beyond \u201cpolite,\u201d how can your partner respect and cherish you?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Too many \u201cnice\u201d women get cheated on or left behind.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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But this is not your fault. You most likely didn\u2019t learn how to be authentic with your emotions. You may be afraid that if you\u2019re bold, you\u2019ll be judged or labeled as difficult.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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In my experience working with hundreds of women, it\u2019s the exact opposite. People are drawn to the raw, real, authentic you, and you meet your partner much faster.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The very start of dating, you are laying down patterns which affect how the relationship will unfold (and if it\u2019ll even go anywhere). How you show up makes a huge difference in whether you will or won\u2019t have lasting love.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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If that\u2019s something you are looking for help with, let me know. I offer free Love Strategy Sessions at <\/span>www.violetlange.com\/talk<\/span><\/a> — 45 minute calls to really understand your patterns and what to do differently. But these aren\u2019t for the faint of heart, so only sign up if you are ready to learn and grow.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The best part of reclaiming your authentic feminine energy isn\u2019t getting into a great relationship (although that rocks too), it\u2019s liberating all the energy you used to waste on trying to be perfect in order to feel loved.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Imagine what you could put that energy into\u2026and if every woman did this, how much energy would be available for changing the world.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Xoxo, Violet<\/span><\/p>\n

P.S. If you consider yourself to be a spiritual woman, but keep attracting narcissists or non-committal partners, chances are you\u2019re playing it safe and being way too nice. And chances are, that same pattern is keeping you from being of greater service to humanity. I\u2019d love to see if I can help you shift this dynamic, so you can live your soul\u2019s purpose and have a flourishing partnership too. Set up a free Love Strategy session here: <\/span>www.violetlange.com\/talk<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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